Via Sydney Morning Herald...
What I know about men ...
Carrie Underwood, 28, country singer.
Married for one year.
I grew up on a farm in Checotah, Oklahoma. My father, Stephen, worked in a paper mill and my mother, Carole, was a school teacher. Dad was the strong, silent type and I always knew he loved me, but instead of saying it, he preferred to show it through actions. He was forever washing my car and pumping up the tyres; he showed his love in different ways.
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On the other hand, my mother is my best friend. Growing up, we always went shopping together and spent a lot of time in each other's company. Nowadays, she comes to award shows and likes to hang out. She's a wonderful person and I talk to her every day. Mom would do anything for anybody and I respect her enormously.
My first kiss happened at 14. It was with a skater guy who had long hair and baggy jeans. He didn't live in my town, and I was attracted to him because he was different from the other boys at school. Funnily enough, I know him now and he's the opposite to how he was back then, but at that time he was as dangerous as I could get.
At high school, dating wasn't really an option. Mine was a really small school in a really small town, so it wasn't until college that I had a boyfriend. My first relationship didn't last long, however, and was the first and last time I ever got dumped. It taught me a lot about myself, that I didn't like getting my heart broken and that sometimes people don't love you back. But that's okay, because my life would have worked out different if he had.
With songs like Before He Cheats and Cowboy Casanova, I sing about two-timing men and love gone wrong, as it's a fun way to get aggression out in songs - I love a good attitude song. I've had my share of love gone wrong and guys not treating me the way any woman should be treated, so I definitely sing from experience.
Winning American Idol in 2005 made it very difficult for me to meet guys. Not only that, but it was difficult to try to figure out what kinds of guys I should date. Right after winning, I went out with a guy from back home. He was the sweetest guy and perfect in so many ways, but he couldn't handle what I did. He couldn't deal with me being away so much and that I made the money, and so after a few months I had to end it.
If I tried to date a guy who was in the music business or who was an actor, that wouldn't work out either because, similarly, he was off doing his thing or I was off doing mine.
Then, after a few relationships, in 2008 I met Mike Fisher in 2008. He is such a warm, caring person and has a wonderful faith in people that I sometimes lack. He's a gorgeous heart wrapped in a gorgeous man. As a professional ice hockey player, he also understands busy and crazy schedules.
For a while it was difficult because we would go for a month or so without seeing one another, but in the early days it forced us to get to really know each other. When we were apart we'd talk on the phone for hours at a time and it made us get to the meat of things. We just had to keep that conversation going.
Dating and being around him made me joyful, it made my heart happy, so in 2010 we were married. We wanted to treat everybody in our lives to a fun weekend, so we invited them to Georgia so they could get to know each other - Mike's family is from Canada and mine is from the States. The day was so much fun; we just ate, toasted each other and danced.
Whether he wants to be or not, Mike is the most instrumental man in my career. He is the one who is there with me. He is the one who hears my songs before anybody else and the person I now make decisions with. I've never had to ask anyone ... not for permission, but to make sure that it's okay if I go away for a week to sing at a festival or concert. He's the one I now turn to.
Right now we both love our careers and what we do, but have shared family goals for the future. We are in the process of buying some property in Tennessee and someday I want to have a farm and be able to have wonderful friends and be a good sister [Underwood has two sisters] and a good daughter. Once our careers have run their course, I am looking forward to just being normal and trying to do some good in the world.
Carrie Underwood's latest album, Play On: Deluxe Edition (Sony Music), is available now.